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For Women Only

Shaunti Feldhahn

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Seven Revelations

So here are the revelations this book is going to cover -- seven translations from "surface level" to "in practice" that you, like me, may not have realized before.

As with each of us, the inner life of any man is a package, with various elements melded and wrapped up inside. Whether you are relating to a husband, boyfriend, or son, it is impossible to understand one part of his inner life in isolation. Every area affects every other area, and I'm only covering those few areas I thought were the most important or helpful.

The Survey:

Thankfully, these revelations are also backed up by evidence obtained from a groundbreaking professional survey of hundreds of men.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men need respect."
What That Means in Practice: Men would rather feel unloved than inadequate and disrespected.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men are insecure."
What That Means in Practice: Despite their "in-control" exterior, men often feel like impostors and are insecure that their inadequacies will be discovered.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men are providers."
What That Means in Practice: Even if you personally made enough income to support your family's lifestyle, it would make no difference to the mental burden he feels to provide.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men want more sex."
What That Means in Practice: Your sexual desire for your husband profoundly affects his sense of well-being and confidence in all areas of his life.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men are visual."
What That Means in Practice: Even happily married men struggle with being pulled toward live and recollected images of other women.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men are unromantic clods."
What That Means in Practice: Actually, most men enjoy romance (sometimes in different ways) and want to be romantic -- but hesitate because they doubt they can succeed.

Our Surface Understanding: "Men care about appearance."
What That Means in Practice: You don't need to be a size 3, but your man does need to see you making the effort to take care of yourself, and he will take on significant cost or inconvenience in order to support you.

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